I suspect my partner is BPD and need resources

[N2T]

Hello,

My partner is "E" - we live in WA state though not in the same household. I'm here to gather support around us and to better understand what we are dealing with. E is a wonderfully loving man who I've been with for a year and recently infidelity surfaced with two women and in the aftermath of the blow up, where he ended it with the women and recommitted to me, he has started opening up to me about his inner life.

I am very patient but I am also dealing with some depression from a motor vehicle accident before we met and I suffer from a TBI. E is extremely understanding and I consider him my best friend however all the puzzle pieces fit into the BPD pattern so clearly when I once thought he may have had schitzophrenia.

We have a 20 year age difference with me divorced with a child and he is college- age but it works and our matching eccentricities match so well that we could never see ending it.

Thank you for allowing me to share!

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[Naughty Nibbler]

Welcome  N2T:
I'm sorry about the problems you are having with your partner.  I'm, also, sorry that you were in an accident and are dealing with a TBI.  How is the management of your depression going?  Are you in therapy or on some meds to manage it?

Other than the infidelity problems, what are some of the more disturbing behaviors that your partner exhibits?

There is a lot of great information/links to the right of this post.  The "Basic Tools" area is a good place to start.

I look forward to hearing more of your story, when you are ready to share.

Take care.