What I'm looking for is other people in 'chosen' relationships like me, and especially those with a male borderline, to talk to and commiserate with.
Hello there! Welcome! I haven't overcome an experience like this yet, but I am currently in a similar situation as you. For the past month my partner and I have been working towards a goal of making our relationship stable.
My partner used cheating as a major outlet for his emotional needs for the majority of our relationship. I caught him several times and each time he told me that he would never see the woman again, a few months would go by and I would catch him back in the habit. Eventually it became too much for me and I had him move out of our home. Despite this, we still maintain communication, go to counseling, and visit each other every once in a while. We do this because we have hopes that a well-functioning relationship between us isn't impossible.
Despite his actions that have hurt me time and time again, I still have hope and love for him. Neither of us wanted the separation, but I believe it was necessary for us in order to start rebuilding our relationship again.
How is the support group going? Have you or your husband reached any goals in counseling?
