Being scared and frightened over nothing

[statsattack]

Has your BPD ex ever been scared and frightened of you for no reason at all?

[anothercasualty]

My ex was scared and frightened of everything! That was the one big  that I noticed early in the relationship. She would have nightmares regularly and was always afraid to be in her house alone.

For a period of time, I think she just wanted me around to feel "safe".

[Octy]

I once asked my ex a few times while I was driving where we should head after eating dinner. She was on her phone texting. I picked up my phone to GPS home until she acknowledged me and dropped it. I pulled over, reached under the seat, and she asked me what I was doing. I said that I had dropped my phone. I told her I had been asking her what our plans were and had mishandled my phone while typing home as a possible destination. She started defending herself(unnecessarily) that she was just texting a friend about stopping by together. Then she started to scream about calling an Uber and pinned herself against the door. "I'm gonna call an Uber" over and over in a panic. I told her, o.k, call an Uber. At the end of the yelling I asked if she was going to call or should I start driving. She said nothing and I think I saw tears in her eyes. It seems heartless now... .I just started to drive.  Looking back that it was near the end and I was confused with the increasingly erratic behavior. I thought she was mad at me for accusing her of ignoring me, but now I think she thought I was angry at her and she was really scared of me physically. Makes me sick to believe that, but I think she had been hit in the past and had a flashback. She could read a lot into my facial expressions(more often incorrect) about my feelings. I'll never know for sure. She needed a hug, but I wasn't able to read anything anymore. Sad memory.

[Larmoyant]

I think it’s sad too. One time we were watching the movie ‘Gone Girl’ and he became extremely agitated and accused me of plotting to manipulate him like the character in the movie. He went as far as saying I would likely stab him in his sleep. Another time, during the break-up, he rang me very late at night to ask if I was going to destroy his career. At the time, I had no idea what was going on and was shocked and saddened that he could think that I’d do these things to him. I loved him. Now I understand it to be a symptom of the disorder. A transient feeling maybe that “other people are evil and will abuse you” that he projected onto me.

Criterion nine in the DSM is "transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms."

[statsattack]

She would say how everything I did was an attempt to be mean and hurt her

[ACObound]

Yes, MANY times.  My uBPDw has many  times made reference to how she is scared of me and even told me she has told girl friend that if "something happens"... .its me.   has even made references to stuff she has put in writing on the subject,  This when I can think of only a handful of times when I have even raised my voice in 20 years... .and never not even once have threaded her physically.  When she made a reference to 'Gone Girl'... .and some of the similarities with herself, I have to admit, I took notice.