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willhestay?
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
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« on: January 22, 2017, 06:04:26 PM »

Hi all,
I'm very glad to have found this family because I TRULY need to be surrounded by people who understand how difficult it is to be married to someone with BPD.  I don't know if I'm really up for the rollercoaster that is accompanied with BPD.  Friends who don't love or understand my husband say leave him, my heart says stay with him for the better of our child (I'll be able to buffer his BP effect on our child). 
I've been going through therapy because our marriage is on threads and I only recently discovered through therapy that he has borderline tendencies though no definitive diagnosis. Is this even worth the effort?  Advice?
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willhestay?
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« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2017, 06:13:57 PM »

I guess I should have an explaining post about myself and my situation.  I married my husband 3 years ago and we have a two yr old daughter.  My husband moved to this country to marry me and while we had dated online for a year before it wasn't like dating in person.  I never really saw his BP though he told me he had "a difficult character" at times.  I have been going through the ups and downs of his disorder right along with him until I couldn't take it anymore and he threatened divorce.  I'm going alone to therapy because "he doesn't have anything to fix".  The only thing I regret at this point is having a child with him and bringing her into this mess to suffer because I'm not the strongest emotionally either (I have an anxiety disorder). 
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