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« on: January 30, 2017, 04:46:35 PM »

I remember telling my ex that she was sexist. The reason that I said this is because she would go on anti male rants and painting males in general with very broad strokes.  We were all bad in some way or the other and capable of sexual abuse or even worse. Women were always virtuous to her even when she saw evidence of the opposite.  I told her I should be living proof that isn't true but then again she didn't fully trust me. I was always a latent abuser even though she was the abusive partner in the relationship. I used the term misandry.

I asked her once with her attitude did she really want to be with a man at all?

Personally I don't believe one sex is superior to the other. Were just different.
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« Reply #1 on: January 30, 2017, 06:25:11 PM »

I remember telling my ex that she was sexist. The reason that I said this is because she would go on anti male rants and painting males in general with very broad strokes.  We were all bad in some way or the other and capable of sexual abuse or even worse. Women were always virtuous to her even when she saw evidence of the opposite.  I told her I should be living proof that isn't true but then again she didn't fully trust me. I was always a latent abuser even though she was the abusive partner in the relationship. I used the term misandry.

I asked her once with her attitude did she really want to be with a man at all?

Personally I don't believe one sex is superior to the other. Were just different.

My ex openly spoke of hating all men (except her brother was a God) - but craved attention from them at the same time.

When she really started devaluing me, she compared me to her father (an abusive monster of a man according to her - I suspect he had BPD himself)

I never heard her express a universal dislike of women - but she constantly trash talked any woman who posed even the slightest iota of competition to her. Very strong Narc tendencies.
She told me her Flying Monkey No.1 had Chalmydia and her Flying Monkey No.2 was destroyed with stretch marks and was impregnated by her stalker.
(I figured out months later - this was primarily told to me just in case I had any attraction to either of them - which I didn't)

Here are two quotes directly from FB
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I put all the men hurt me and let me down it a box together in the back my head let em there. There bound to have things in common

and WhatsApp
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"I'm used to this... .I expect ever man I ever knew let me down from ages 7 to 27
That's what ye do, ye promise the sun, moon and stars - then ye **** on it"


Her most recent was a series of posts on Instagram and Facebook - an attempt to smear me and saying that men ruin lives and men make you fat, and men are the devil... .(I hope she keeps it up, because mutual friends are starting to express how incredibly bat **** crazy she is)
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« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2017, 06:43:09 PM »

From my own experience there was definitely a general man hating issue going down. Likely because her Dad didn't want anything to do with her, from before she was actually born. Someone well informed suggested when they turn on you it's indeed the old man they're punishing.
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« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2017, 08:59:13 PM »

From my own experience there was definitely a general man hating issue going down. Likely because her Dad didn't want anything to do with her, from before she was actually born. Someone well informed suggested when they turn on you it's indeed the old man they're punishing.

I got that impression too. Her dad was not really in her life too much until recently and I know her mother was bitter towards him.  He is trying to help and be there for her and regrets his past mistakes but she could not cope or fully let go of the past. She would welcome her dad in her life and sometimes bad mouth him (behind his back) to me for abandoning her. Everything was someone else's fault especially her dad's. She was perhaps justified to feel abandoned by her dad but ALL men?
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