In order to move forward after its over... .you need to stop with the justifying. Be honest with yourself, stop making excuses for unacceptable behavoir. And stop the fantasy of a perfect relationship.
excellent point.
Watching the videos makes people feel for their cluster b ,
people have a range of reactions. for some it helps understand, and thereby depersonalize very hurtful behavior, and thereby let go of the justified anger. we all felt for our exes at some point
did you watch the video?