Repairing a family bond

[Triforce231]

How does someone repair a bond with family that there wife with BPD has issues with when my wife was hated and they did not want us to be together? It's been a year since my family and I have been estranged .

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[isilme]

Tirforce,

Can you maybe explain a bit better?  So your BPD wife contributed to your estrangement from your family?  Was it one issue or many things over years?  They wrote you off for staying with her?  How does your wife feel about them?

My Family of Origin (FOO) is toxic, on both sides, and I found I was healthier without them in my life.  I've been NC with Dad and his family since he kicked me out for almost 20 years, and with mom and hers for slightly less time because I could not commit to NC for a while - about 5-7 years for her.  It's not a great feeling by any means, but I am not strong enough to remain my own person with them in my life, and mom even tried to enmesh H's parents and used my and H's mom's identity on credit applications - so nope, NC. 

Why do you want to re-establish contact?  Do you want contact with all of them, or a select few?

[Echo87]

No advice unfortunately. But recently finding myself in a similar situation, recently estranged from my father who is unwilling to accept my relationship with my BPD partner. It's hurtful but I don't make other's choices... .