Hello everyone

[MomofTempest]

Hello, I am the mother of a teenage daughter who has had multiple diagnoses that never quite fit.  Within the last 6 months BPD has been mentioned as what she is being presumed to have and her therapy has been proceeding with that in mind. The more I read about it it is so obvious that it describes her exactly. I'm looking forward to reading what others have gone before me down this path know and what the advice they can give is.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[ForeverDad]

Dialectical or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (DBT or CBT) are often mentioned as most helpful.  I have the impression that therapists don't seem to give a name to their therapy, but I suspect that's what they're using.

Generally minors are not quickly diagnosed as Borderline since a lot of teen behaviors can reflect some of those BPD traits but in many cases resolve themselves over time as the person matures.  Having experienced therapists is very helpful.

Yet you didn't fail as parents since Borderline is a disorder most evident in - and most impacting to - close relationships but the person can't/won't get past the emotional baggage of the close relationship to truly listen to you.  (People in peripheral contact or at a distance are not as impacted or may only notice that something is '"off".)

Hence the benefit of having therapists who are not emotionally invested.  While success is not guaranteed, positive responses are more likely.