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Recently my uBPD wife and I were making a 3.5 hour drive to a beach resort where we would celebrate her birthday. I let her plan this overnight trip. She planned a couple of hikes, some beach walks, and a dinner at a nice restaurant. I started driving, and after a short time she started complaining that I was "oversteering" the car on some of the curvy roads. I sensed, by the tone of her voice and the topics she brought up, that she was sinking emotionally, so I was very careful with what I said, and tried to be positive and (genuinely) looking forward to our fun plans. She asked me to connect her phone via bluetooth to the car's audio so she could play some music, and I had some difficulty doing so. I can usually do this without much trouble. Somehow, I managed to pocket dial our adult daughter, with whom my wife has had significant recent conflict. I cut the call instantly and texted her "Oops - pocket dial! Sorry." to which my daughter responded with a thumbs up. Well, this set my wife off on a borderline rage that lasted for the remainder of our drive, 2+ hours. She attacked me for anything and everything she says I've done wrong in our 32 years of marriage. She blamed me for "intentionally" calling our daughter, for enjoying her suffering, for abusing her emotionally, and much more. It went on, and on, and on. Eventually the "I don't know why we're even together - you are an energy vampire, a covert narcissist," came out repeatedly.
Having learned from this website not to JADE, I tried, not completely successfully, to not react in kind. I tried to use SET, although mostly just SE. I've also read "Stop Walking on Eggshells," "The High Conflict Couple," "Stop Caretaking the BPD/NPD," and others, but it's all so very, very hard to practice in reality. When she attacks me my blood pressure skyrockets, my heart races, I get short of breath, and my memory shuts down. I would normally say something like "we are too upset right now to discuss this productively. I need to take a time out for an hour or two," and then go for a walk or go to a different room in the house. But in this case I was trapped! It was truly awful. I was mostly silent as she raged at me, but occasionally offered support and empathy statements. It did not help much.
Eventually we reached our hiking spot, and she said she didn't want to hike with me. I suggested she walk a few minutes ahead. Hiking is very therapeutic for both of us. It was strong exercise going uphill, and after an hour or so she checked in with me and sounded like she was recovering. We had lunch together on the mountaintop with a great view. The rest of the day was fairly normal, but I was still walking on eggshells. She had threatened to skip the romantic dinner, but eventually we went together as planned and it was pleasant. The next day she had another bout of anger, but it was shorter and milder.
That's the backstory. Can anyone give me some ideas on how to deal with such situations in the future? Do you have similar stories yourself? Any and all comments will be greatly appreciated.
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Re: Raged at for hours while trapped in our car
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January 23, 2025, 01:14:07 PM »
Car conflict is really difficult and you're not alone in experiencing it -- other members here have also been in similar situations.
It sounds challenging to be on a long out of town drive where you don't have the option of pulling over and taking a taxi home, for example. Being trapped in a car with no way out, and terrible conflict, is so stressful and I've felt it before, too. I'm really sorry that happened to you.
Did you have any concerns while driving that either (a) you were too flooded to drive safely, and/or (b) that she would escalate past the verbal rage/blame to physical stuff (grabbing the steering wheel, etc)?
It's worth noting that you successfully did not Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain during the drive. That was you taking responsibility for your part -- you chose not to make it worse. You can't fix or change or control her -- her raging might stay pretty bad -- but you do have control over whether you inflame it or not. Well done on not JADEing.
It's interesting that after you successfully did not JADE, that even though she still raged in the car, when you got there, she was essentially responsive to your suggestion that you both still hike but with some space.
Is it typical for her to take about an hour to mostly get back to baseline after a big rage, and then maybe have just one "aftershock" (like you mentioned she had the next day)?
Each person, BPD or not, has their own timeline for getting back to baseline. Mine can be multiple hours to days. It would be interesting for you to know her typical return to baseline time, as generally, when we try to engage with a loved one who isn't back at baseline, it just fires things up again.
Quote from: GrayJay on January 22, 2025, 12:56:02 PM
That's the backstory. Can anyone give me some ideas on how to deal with such situations in the future? Do you have similar stories yourself? Any and all comments will be greatly appreciated.
In this specific circumstance (heading out of town, multiple hour drive, no taxi/bus), I think you did well. You leaned on a couple of tools just to get through the raging, because options like stopping the car, getting out, walking home, etc, were not available. I'm not sure there would be "magic phrases" that would have made the situation much different or better for you -- I think you did the best you could.
On shorter drives, or drives in town, you can consider if you want to ride in the same car with her. Taking two vehicles, or having taxi/bus/Uber options, might give you more peace of mind. You might be able to really pare down the time you two spend in the car together to the bare minimum -- if that's a direction you want to go.
Depending on the destination, you could consider alternate modes of transportation for longer trips. You know her best -- would she do better in a more public setting such as the train, airplane, Greyhound bus, etc? Something where if you need to, you can get up and stretch your legs and get a bit of space, without worrying about pulling the car over.
So there are options/ideas for the future. For your recent experience, though, I think leaning on tools/skills was the option you had -- you might add in quietly focusing on your own breathing, if you're able to do so and it helps you to stay less wound up while you drive. Really building up your toolbelt of self-regulation skills (
mindfulness
, breathing, etc) could be a worthwhile endeavor, for those times where yes, you cannot leave the car for hours.
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January 23, 2025, 02:18:04 PM »
Thank you for your reply, Kells76! I forgot to include in my narrative that after she complained about my driving, she asked to take over the wheel and I agreed. We normally split driving duties roughly 50/50 on longer drives, even though in this case we were maybe 1/3 of the way to our destination. So the cell phone issues were mine, while I rode in the passenger seat.
I did JADE, but only a little. It's just so hard to hear her accuse me, over and over again, of motives and behaviors which are completely untrue. And she's an expert at putting me in "lose-lose" situations where whatever I say is wrong. I can avoid JADEing for quite a while, but sometimes I fight back. Having the option to walk away for a time out helps a lot. Truth be told, I was so overwhelmed with her verbal abuse that my memory shut down and I remember is a fog of hellish anger and extreme physical and emotional stress.
Your suggestion to observe her time to return to baseline is a good one. I'll look into that. Right now, a lot depends upon the time of day and especially if she manages to get in some strenuous exercise or meet some women for a social event. I strongly support her in those.
On airline flights she usually asks to sit separately, often in the row immediately behind me. If I so much as say hello to a woman, and nothing more, she thinks I'm flirting. Once a woman about 30 years old (my daughter's age) sat next to me and we may have exchanged 2 or 3 sentences. Afterwards, my wife went into a rage which she still repeats to this day, that I was going to "pick her up!" It's insane. But sitting separately can help. A safe strategy for me is to put on noise-cancelling headphones and not speak to anyone.
Mindfulness and breathing - thanks for the reminder.
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Re: Raged at for hours while trapped in our car
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January 23, 2025, 03:27:40 PM »
Hi there,
Indeed, being stuck in a car far from home is a common scenario. I've had it happen a couple of times. I think you did really well by not JADEing, but it still hurts to experience her venom, right? Another tactic you might try is gray rocking. Try to sit as still and boring as a gray rock, so that you don't feed the fire of her ire. If you don't engage, she might eventually quiet down by herself. Meanwhile, if you are getting really stressed out, you might try re-centering yourself with the five senses technique. Basically you actively use your five senses to identify different things you can see, touch, hear, smell and taste. List five things in your surroundings that you see of one color, four different textures you are touching, three different sounds you are hearing, two things you can smell and one taste. I find that this simple, accessible mindfulness technique can help ground you, while at the same time diminishing the impact of the hurtful words. I confess I've used it during funerals and in court, when I felt I was at risk of being overcome by emotion.
I really like how you agreed to walk apart, but still together. I find that sometimes it's easier to handle a tough conversation while walking. Maybe it's the physical activity that lessens stress, or the fact that you're both staring forward, focusing on footfalls, and not having direct eye contact. Maybe it's the fresh air and change of scenery that helps. Maybe it's a little of everything.
Good luck.
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January 23, 2025, 06:44:28 PM »
I think just like you have things that build up so does she. So your blood pressure and all are just natural. Use them for yourself and take some space if you need to. More random stops on a road trips? You can just enjoy the moments that are good and try to enhance your happiness. I know it’s often our partners who gauge our success or failures but we all have moments and your place matters too so just enjoy it even in your not succeeding in placing boundaries, etc.
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Re: Raged at for hours while trapped in our car
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January 23, 2025, 11:27:17 PM »
Oh wow. This post really hit home for me. This has happened to me far more times than I can count, and I blame myself - because my BPDh and I have loved to go for road trips, and it took me a while to figure out that there would be at least one episode per trip, if not more. I would say that 70-80% of the time, it's great. He really loves driving and it soothes him. But then the other parts....
One time, we were in Malaysia - this was the first real driving rage I experienced with him. We had been on a group hike and he was furious with me for making small talk with a clearly unattractive man who had a lot of hiking knowledge. I had tried to get my husband involved in the conversation, but he completely shut down. I kept chatting away, because I wanted to hear the guy's advice about hiking in Australia - something my husband and I are both interested in. Plus, I am a friendly person and love to talk to people - ALL people. I am not going to erase that part of myself just because of his insecurities. Long story short, when we left the hike, my husband lost it. I ended up sitting in the back of the car, while he drove so crazy I thought we might die. After that happened, I swore to him that if he ever drove like that with me in the car again, I would get out of the car, even if it was moving.
On another trip, we were in Vegas and driving back to California the next day. We got in a fight because I used "a tone" with him when I asked him to wait for me in CVS when he wanted to leave. He insisted that we go back to the hotel after that - and walked a loooong way down the strip and up to the hotel. Once we got back to the room, he said he wanted to go out again. I said no - I had blisters on my feet and we needed to leave early the next morning. We had our chance and he had insisted on coming back to the room. Raging ensued ("I'll never forgive you for this!"). He insisted that I drive the next day, although he knows that I don't like to drive and he actually loves it. Punishment - his MO, even if it also punishes him in some way. He would rather hurt himself to hurt me than let something go. It's bizarre. The drive had horrible energy for hours on end. Snappy comments and his dense, dark cloud of simmering rage and resentment. I picked the scenic route and really tried to enjoy it. He criticized my driving and finally took back over with maybe 4 hours left of the drive. I put on my sunglasses and went to sleep. That was a good escape.
Most recently - we were stuck in traffic and he was absolutely screaming at me, claiming that I said he is a bad father (I would never say that. And although I know we aren't supposed to JADE, with this particular topic, I will always say "you know I would never and have never said that to you"). He has a very complicated relationship with his ex (who I think may also have BPD), who has completely cut him off from his son. It's quite sad actually, and I feel for him. So when he says that I am saying he's a bad father, I know that's actually what he thinks about himself. Anyway, I opened the door to the slowly moving car. "What are you doing?" he said, momentarily snapping out of it. "I will not stay in this car if you are going to scream at me like that." His response was that he wasn't screaming "at me" - he was just screaming. But he did stop, because I was about to enforce the boundary I'd set (even though it's a rather dramatic boundary).
During that time period, he also raged at me for something else in the car and I happened to have my noise-cancelling headphones. I said "I don't deserve to be spoken to like this. I'm putting on my headphones." He kept yelling, but it gave me some peace when I couldn't escape in any other way.
I, like you, also get horrible physical symptoms when he goes into his rages. Racing heart, flushed face, shaking hands/body. It is NOT good for my nervous system. All of this is to say - you did a great job. It's effing difficult. Keep using your tools. Maybe bring your headphones and tell her that you are going to put them on if she feels the need to yell at you, because you aren't available for that kind of anger dump. Your health and boundaries matter too - and ongoing walking on eggshells and being regularly driven into a fight/flight/freeze response because of their rage is NOT good for our health.
Take care of yourself!!
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Re: Raged at for hours while trapped in our car
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Interesting post. So sorry this happened to you! This is a fear of mine, it's happened a couple of times and it's so horrible. No escape! I'm starting to think through developing a playbook of sorts for myself so I can have planned out in advance what I will do or say in specific scenarios. Being stuck in a vehicle is a big one. It's great to hear the advice of others, I'm not sure what options you have except to grey rock or possibly put on headphones. For my uBPDw she wants to 'talk it out' and 'resolve it' but we all know that's not really what she wants and definitely not what happens. Not talking or responding to mine escalates her so much more.
An even bigger fear of mine is when this happens when our kids are around in the car. This has happened and I really didn't know what to do. And one time it was directed at our daughter. It's like what to do? Turn around and say we're going home and have her rage for the hour back? Maybe I make sure there are always headphones in the car for me and the kids. Part of me thinks if she can't calm down and is raging do I drop my uBPDw at a store or a starbucks and call her an Uber assuming we're close enough? I would say we, the nons could exit the vehicle but not sure she would be safe to drive if she's that dysregulated (plus she's often drinking anyway when we've been out).
Didn't mean to hijack the thread but it definitely strikes a chord
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I am concerned about safety when I drive my BPD mother. I won't drive with her alone. She lives in a high traffic area and if she yells at me I get stressed and rattled.
Once we were going to an event and we were running late. She began yelling at me in the car and I told her I would have to pull over. I just don't feel safe to drive when she does that. Since she realized it would make us even later, she stopped.
So yes, a good boundary is safety first- not whether she, or anyone else is yelling or who is at fault, or who she's yelling at in the car- adults or kids. It isn't safe to drive under these conditions and because of that, it's necessary to stop, pull over, or go back home. It's also not safe for anyone to drive if they have been drinking.
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Thanks everyone for your replies and suggestions. It was helpful to me and hopefully others, too. What makes this so hard is that if I react or JADE, I lose, and if I try to validate and empathize, she takes this as stonewalling and being afraid of conflict. She seems to WANT a fiery, angry response and feels I don’t care and am mocking or disrespectful if I don’t fight back. So that escalates things, too. The best I can come up with is to say something like “I really care about what you are saying and I want to work with you toward some solutions, but when we are really angry and dysregulated it just gets worse. I know you don’t like this, but although I am listening to you, I’m not going to argue at this time.”
Does anyone have any other or better suggestions?
I really don’t know if my 30+ year marriage can be saved, although I haven’t given up. She just has so much anger and refuses to go to therapy or to forgive. To her, I am completely to blame. It’s really depressing and often feels hopeless.
I’m wondering if elsewhere on this site there is a list of emergency techniques to try when I am emotionally overwhelmed and hopeless feeling, kind of an emotional 911 call. These sleepless nights are really wearing on me! (If she saw this, she would say, “Oh, what a poor victim you are! You’re such a weak man.)
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I meant to thank cc43 for some of his/her self-regulating methods.
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Quote from: GrayJay on January 25, 2025, 03:59:08 PM
She seems to WANT a fiery, angry response and feels I don’t care and am mocking or disrespectful if I don’t fight back. So that escalates things, too.
Does anyone have any other or better suggestions?
I really don’t know if my 30+ year marriage can be saved, although I haven’t given up. She just has so much anger and refuses to go to therapy or to forgive. To her, I am completely to blame. It’s really depressing and often feels hopeless.
If she saw this, she would say, “Oh, what a poor victim you are! You’re such a weak man.
My BPD mother has similar behaviors. She also says critical and mean things in response to someone feeling "down" or hurt.
Does your wife feel better after a rage episode?
If so, this may help you understand why they happen and why they continue. With my BPD mother, she often acts calmer and more settled after one of them. That doesn't mean other people feel better- but she does and so, she assumes all is better now too.
These episoded serve a purpose for her. PwBPD have difficutly managing uncomfortable emotions. This becomes a cycle- "feelings" build up and with her, they are projected outward. Once she has raged them out, it's a sort of reset for her. She may push for a conflict because the conflict is a way for her to have this type of rage.
I compare this to when a little child eats too much candy, gets a stomach ache, and then throws up. The child feels much better and then runs off to play. In a way, the rage is emotional throw up.
It's distressing to be the recipient of the rage. However, seeing this as a function, not something personal to you, may help provide some objectivity. Whatever the reason, one doesn't have to tolerate verbal abuse- and you can have boundaries. Seeing this objectively may help you avoid your own emotional reaction- JADE, or being emotional back- which adds drama, so you can avoid it.
I hope you are seeing a counselor as it's important to have emotional support.
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I also have had that experience with my BPDh. He uses the rage as a way to purge his build-up of feelings. I've noticed that our conflicts often last for less time if I rage back at him. He wants the conflict. I suppose that's also why they say that people with childhood trauma and chronically dysregulated nervous systems seek out what they know. It's very uncomfortable for him to sit with his feelings, and it seems that he is unable to let them go without the rage bouts.
I use similar 911 strategies: "I hear and understand that you are angry and hurt. I am also angry and hurt. We aren't going to accomplish anything by engaging with each other right now, while we are both so upset. So I am going to put my headphones on/close the door to my office/leave the house until we have both calmed down and can speak respectfully to each other." This doesn't necessarily help him calm down (as he isn't able to have the conflict he seems to be searching for), but it allows me to keep my own nervous system regulated (as much as it can be with so much tension).
I guess that's what this is all about - they don't know how to self-regulate and seek external support, whether that's validation or fighting or whatever, to get back to some level of what might feel normal. However, nothing we can say or do will regulate them or necessarily diffuse the situation, and every person is different. We can only speak about our own feelings and set our own strong-yet-loving boundaries. It's hard!
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Quote from: MindfulBreath on January 27, 2025, 12:14:10 AM
We aren't going to accomplish anything by engaging with each other right now, while we are both so upset. So I am going to put my headphones on/close the door to my office/leave the house until we have both calmed down and can speak respectfully to each other." This doesn't necessarily help him calm down (as he isn't able to have the conflict he seems to be searching for), but it allows me to keep my own nervous system regulated (as much as it can be with so much tension).
I guess that's what this is all about - they don't know how to self-regulate and seek external support, whether that's validation or fighting or whatever, to get back to some level of what might feel normal. However, nothing we can say or do will regulate them or necessarily diffuse the situation, and every person is different. We can only speak about our own feelings and set our own strong-yet-loving boundaries. It's hard!
I think that's about the best one can do. Looking at it this way- the more someone else "regulates" for them, then they don't gain self regulation skills and the behavior continues. It's not known if they can learn self regulation skills or not- but they surely won't if others do it for them. So the other choice is to let them be with their feelings.
Easier said then done- especially when the rages include destructive behavior- either to objects, people, or themselves.
The car is a difficult location as people are confined in one space. If it becomes a safety concern, looking at it that way, it's best to pull over until they calm down.
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Quote from: Notwendy on January 24, 2025, 02:32:46 PM
Once we were going to an event and we were running late. She began yelling at me in the car and I told her I would have to pull over. I just don't feel safe to drive when she does that.
The first time I heard "I want a divorce!" was when I had driven us to the major religious event of the year, she was freaking out that we'd be late. We were early but she got out, grabbed our son and said that.
Quote from: Notwendy on January 27, 2025, 06:28:02 AM
The car is a difficult location as people are confined in one space. If it becomes a safety concern, looking at it that way, it's best to pull over until they calm down.
I pulled over during one tirade when our child was still a baby, it even freaked out my then-spouse even more, she threatened to get out and run across the interstate highway. I then drove us to the local hospital ER but she refused get out. The worker who came out refused to take her in and I was told they'd call the police if I didn't move my vehicle.
Sadly, it's quite difficult when essentially trapped in a ragefest.
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