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Author Topic: 23 Years of Marriage & 5 Kids, I feel rejected  (Read 393 times)
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
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« on: February 10, 2025, 11:52:40 PM »

This is my first post after making an account. I'll be back, I'm needing support and to learn how to do better for my wife with BPD, but I feel she's done with me and has really started to push me away. She's been devaluing me for awhile, but I'm learning this all too late. She's been showing the signs of pushing me away, to the point of she can't even be decent to me or communicate, unless she thinks I need to know or she needs my signature.

I would like to share my story and perspective, but I want to be honest and upfront. So... I need to familiarize myself with the rules first. Til tomorrow....
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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic partner
Relationship status: Married
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« Reply #1 on: February 11, 2025, 12:30:34 PM »

I'm new here as well. All I can say is I understand. I am also at 23 years of marriage with 3 children and my spouse ready to end it, pushing me away, and everything is my fault at this point. Sending you as much support and good thoughts from an online stranger as possible..
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Relationship status: Divorced
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« Reply #2 on: February 11, 2025, 04:09:19 PM »

This is my first post after making an account. I'll be back, I'm needing support and to learn how to do better for my wife with BPD, but I feel she's done with me and has really started to push me away. She's been devaluing me for awhile, but I'm learning this all too late. She's been showing the signs of pushing me away, to the point of she can't even be decent to me or communicate, unless she thinks I need to know or she needs my signature.

I would like to share my story and perspective, but I want to be honest and upfront. So... I need to familiarize myself with the rules first. Til tomorrow....

Hello Slug and welcome.  I'm so glad you found us and let me say up front, it's never too late to educate yourself.  Communication is everything in a BPD relationship and you've probably made some mistakes (like all of us have) because you're human and this stuff is not intuitive.  That's okay though and there's still time to turn things around.

As far as rules here, you're free to share your story or anything relevant about what you've been through.  If you want to just rant sometimes, that's 100% okay too.  Talk it out as needed.  The big rules are not to share names or specific locations, or any type of specific identifying information.  Instead, use generalities if you need to include it in telling your story.

We're all here to help since we're all going through this, so I look forward to hearing more of your story!

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