Sister

[Depression = 72% of members]

I have found the stopping on eggshell book very helpful and I’m now doing the workbook. One thing that I am noticing is different from some of the descriptions is my sister not very verbal. She doesn’t yell at me or outwardly blame me However, I can feel her disapproval. Does anyone else experience this?

[Bigsis1956]

I have found the stopping on eggshell book very helpful and I’m now doing the workbook. One thing that I am noticing is different from some of the descriptions is my sister not very verbal. She doesn’t yell at me or outwardly blame me However, I can feel her disapproval. Does anyone else experience this?

[HappyChappy]

BPD is a narrow label, but the DMS-5 scale covers a wider group of people, including BPD, maybe take a look at that ?

[Notwendy]

BPD is a spectrum. While there is a core list of traits, people can differ in how they express the traits. There can be associated issues- addiction, self harm- but not all pwBPD have them.

For many people on this site- we may not have an official diagnosis but we know the person we are connected with has the traits and behavior of someone with BPD. We aren't in a position to make that diagnosis, but- for us, we are learning about how best to interact with the person, so even without an official diagnosis, we can do that.

For the person to get professional help for their BPD- they would need to do this with their own therapist.

There can also be overlap between the PD's and other mental health issues. Each person with BPD is still a unique individual.

[CC43]

Does your sister act in a passive-aggressive way?  My BPD adult stepdaughter would do that. Her hostility looked like not replying to a good morning, walking away if I asked, How are you?, leaving messes for me to pick up, standing me up countless times, storming out of situations in a huff, etc. She would demand help with something, such as money or help moving, and then wouldn’t say thanks, but would still act with covert hostility. I’d say that’s typical BPD.