Dad dead's will and siblings.

[Nickerdoodle]

My siblings f'd with the wrong person.  A person I don't even remember ever seeing before just showed up.  This is not a momentary emboldened moment. No. You see, when I really get it there is no going back with me.  It is not being stubborn.  No. It is my clarity, their disrespect, and knowing there is nothing left to lose and everything to gain by being honest.   I am done.  Apparently, it takes a lot to get me there but that seems to be changing.  I don't have a high tolerance for pain lately.  Maybe next time there is an assault on my emotional health I be willing to put a chalk outline on the crime scene and call it what it is instead of saying No.  I think it is a garden in the making if we just be patient and understanding and pour enough blood on it then it will sprout something magnificent.

Now we are having fun with the sale of the house.  Why screw with someone on the deed?  That be me.

Oh please Lord Jesus get me out of this. 

[HappyChappy]

Hey Nickerdoodle, I feel for you on this, my father died not so long ago. You've not given too many details, but sounds like it's about balancing your mental health vs whatever's going on. Is it worth getting too involved ? Could a grief Councillor help ? 

[HappyChappy]

Now we are having fun with the sale of the house.  Why screw with someone on the deed?  That be me.

Could you pass this to a solicitor, to give you emotional distance ? Or if you pay just for hourly advice, you can keep costs lower, but would be more involved.

[ForeverDad]

Is it too much to hope that the will states that if the siblings disagree on how the house is inherited, then it would be better to sell it on the market then have the executor distribute the proceeds?

Or is this where you and your parent were co-owners but the will specified someone else to inherit?

Lacking the information of precisely what the issue is, then counseling for handling your loss and allowing a lawyer to handle the details does seem advisable.

[Nickerdoodle]

I haven't written in a while.  I chose to stuff my emotions down and this week the valve let off some steam.  I find myself rightfully rage filled and somehow determined.  I have calmed down and become much more focused.

A lot of you asked questions.  You see my dad put the house in my name and my sister's and brother's names.  They can't sell it without my consent and agreement on terms.  Know what is nuts about this?  I made my living buying and selling homes.  My sister owned one home and instead of even trying a short sale just turned in the keys.  She lives with her drunk boyfriend.  My brother has owned his home for close to thirty years but has file bankruptcy two times.  He buys boats and  4-wheeler and toys.  I live 2,000 miles away and retired at 57.  Somehow dad picked bankruptcy boy to be executor.  There is one problem that lad can't get around.  I am on the deed and the house cannot be sold without paying me.  They are not supposed to be racking up bills on the house without my consent but they are.  My problem right now is that they will not provide me with paid invoices and receipts.  It has turned very ugly.

[ForeverDad]

Have you tried reporting this misfeasance or malfeasance to the court and asked for a professional replacement executor?  By that I mean a legal opinion on how to move forward from this gridlock?

I do recall a lawyer telling me about a house in my area sitting empty for years stating some siblings inherited a home but nothing was done because one of the sibling's spouses refused to sign paperwork.

[Notwendy]

There's a house near us that is like this, some sort of family/inheritance issue. It may be resolved by now, but not sure.

I think this is a situation that could need a lawyer or mediator to come to some resolution. 3 siblings on a deed could be complicated.

It may be more costly to have a lawyer act on your behalf but it may be a protective buffer for you in the family dynamic. Although you have experience with real estate, you are also a sibling in this situation. Since family disorder- BPD- affects the closest relationships, your siblings may respond better to an objective lawyer than a family member.