What can I do?

[MaxUmbra]

Hi, I'm in my first ever relationship with a person who has BPD and I'm doing my very best to be kind, understanding and patient but it doesn't seem quite enough. My partner is very reluctant to tell me what he needs and what I can do to help him prevent splits, and expects me to just know everything. I'm diagnosed with autism and personally struggle to do things without being told how and what to do. What can I do in this situation?

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