Introduction

[brownbird]

I have been married 17 years and just realized that my husband suffers from BPD  and/or NPD. He is very verbally abusive and has had episodes of phydical violence. Before I thought it was all my fault and I truly deserved and asked for his negative behavior towards me. I need help  learning how to cope with my husband's behavior. I just recently heard the term Borderline Personality Disorder.  I am in counseling  and so are our two children. I just was introduced to the 'stop walking on eggshells' book I will give it a thorough read. It will be very beneficial to simply know I am not alone. I am very thankful to have found this grouo.

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi brownbird . Glad you found us. This board is full of a lot of support. One of the most important things, especially with a history of DV, is for you to get a plan in place for your safety and the safety of your children. You can find that here:

https://bpdfamily.com/pdfs/safety_first.pdf

There are also lots of lessons on the right side of the page to help you begin finding ways to improve your relationship with your pwBPD. They may not fix things but they will help you learn ways to communicate better and how to take care of yourself. Looking forward to learning more about you and your situation.

[livednlearned]

Hi brownbird,

Therapy can be a real eye opener! I'm glad you and your kids are able to talk to someone who understands BPD/NPD. It can be tough with a partner who has BPD to get the kids into counseling, so that's great they have an outlet.

How old are the kids? Do they know that their dad has a PD? Is it something they can discuss openly with you?

You're definitely not alone! Lots of us here have walked this same path, and we are glad you're here walking along with us.

LnL