How to enforce boundaries when living together ???

[Rowdy]

* does the part of you that loves them block you from their behaviour*

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[mitochondrium]

SuperDaddy,

I am sorry to read about the situation with police in your country. However, I dissagree, that the police threat was the thing that made my boundaries stick better. I maybe used police threat 3 times in 8 years, I think that sticking to boundaries, not giving in and staying calm using comunication techniques brought a lot more. When it was really bad I had to stick to my boundaries multiple times per week, sometimes multiple times per day. At those times feeling love and compassion was practically impossible as you write. But boundaries still have to be put in place, although it is a hard process. I thrink we as prtners also have to learn ourselves how to put boundary in place practically, we usually do not have this knowledge and experience from before and our behaviour also allows codependancy that is bad for both sides. And we have to stick to the boundary time after time, if we do not, it is lost quickly and even harder to win back next time.