oh no...

[In4thewin]

I'm worried, and unfortunately my mind always goes to the worst case scenario. Yesterday I met with my daughter (pwBPD) and her boyfriend for what I thought would be a pleasant breakfast. Immediately I realized ther was a problem..... she walked in prior to him and was upset....talking fast, on the verge of crying etc. Then he walked in after parking the car..... he was was stoic and white faced... like deer in headlights. Then he didn't want to order breakfast... because he "wasn't hungry". He was clearly very upet. Fast forwarding.... when he went to the bathroom, I asked my daughter what the problem was... trying to keep her calm. She was all over the place, crying etc., but then it "really" came down to a situation/issue with his 8 year old daughter that happened earlier that morning. All I was able to extract before BF came back out was that in my daughter's opinion, his daughter was being unreasonably difficult/demanding that morning...and my daughter didn't agree with the way he handled it.... and _____ hit the fan at SOME point. Again, I have no clue if something bad happened in front of the child or directly involving the child.... or if the major issue happened afterwards bewteen my daughter and BF when they were on their way to meet me. Anyway, by the end of a very long breakfast due to slow service, everything seemed to be smoothed over.... but I AM WORRIED.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders