Added trauma and poor choices

[marchstar]

My 27yo daughter was diagnosed with BPD at 16. When I found out about her illness I read Stop Walking on Egghells by Randi Kreger and it helped me understand so much. A few years ago she made some poor choices and was involved in a very abusive relationship. Now she is working through the trauma. What are some resources I can find to help me, help her?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Mutt]

Hi marchstar, welcome-glad you found your way here.

That’s a heavy mix-BPD plus trauma from an abusive relationship. Makes sense you’re looking for ways to support her without it overwhelming both of you.

You’ve already done a lot by educating yourself. From here, keeping it simple can help:

   •   DBT (skills for regulation and stability)
   •   Trauma-informed therapy (at her pace)
   •   For you: boundaries + validation (support without taking it all on)

If you’re open to sharing-what kind of support is she getting right now?