so tired of the split

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My 35yr old has BPD, I think. She had my grandson 3 years ago. I was her person,helped her and took care of him. Than i wasn't. She split my family, no showed at Christmas and two days later slapped me with a restraining order claiming domestic violence.  She spent the next 9 months filing fraudulent restraining orders against me a d my husband to obtain housing vouchers. All of the restraining orders were thrown out. I have not seen her or my grandson for almost two years now. I'm heart broken, and struggling in ways I never thought possible. I did not mention the long 20 year history of suicide attempts,  rescuing her from different states which all came with some dramatic story. This last time was it for me, mentally I can't do it anymore.  Than my mother, my daughters enabler told me today that she planned to have my daughter around again and I would have to accept it. I feel like I will have to grieve my mother and move on because the wreckage is just to much. Not sure what to do but I like I'm going 10 steps back.

[Karmakat23]

My 35yr old has BPD, I think. She had my grandson 3 years ago. I was her person,helped her and took care of him. Than i wasn't. She split my family, no showed at Christmas and two days later slapped me with a restraining order claiming domestic violence.  She spent the next 9 months filing fraudulent restraining orders against me a d my husband to obtain housing vouchers. All of the restraining orders were thrown out. I have not seen her or my grandson for almost two years now. I'm heart broken, and struggling in ways I never thought possible. I did not mention the long 20 year history of suicide attempts,  rescuing her from different states which all came with some dramatic story. This last time was it for me, mentally I can't do it anymore.  Than my mother, my daughters enabler told me today that she planned to have my daughter around again and I would have to accept it. I feel like I will have to grieve my mother and move on because the wreckage is just to much. Not sure what to do but I like I'm going 10 steps back.

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