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I've read a lot about Borderline since my relationship failed. I'm on the detaching board because she is with my successor. The timing suggests she left me for him.
We broke up in December. We've had a few conversations since then and I have done everything to try and show her I care and don't want this to end, desperately I might add. This has been met with her being demeaning and changing our overall good relationship to be terrible along with me being a bad person and a terrible boyfriend and friend.
She then told me to never contact her again. I did so for 20 days. then decided to go to her to return files she had asked for on a usb drive. I tried walking away and when she started talking to me she hooked me again. I assume it seemed like I was done. we talked for a few days and planned on meeting. The day of the meeting she called and told me it wasn't happening and went back to being a jerk and to never contact her once again. It's been 23 days now. She is still with the other guy.
I know after all this I shouldn't want a reconciliation and who can say if she'll ever reappear. I just cant let this terrible few months out weigh the bond we did grow and the greatness we did have. It may not have been real to her, it was to me though. I'm not entirely sure what led to the break up as it was sudden and swift and she seems to have changed completely.
Have any of you been contacted after the pwBPD made it seem like you'll never hear from them again and you're basically the devil?
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Have any of you been contacted after the pwBPD made it seem like you'll never hear from them again and you're basically the devil?
Yes. Not to reconcile but to apologize and validate me.
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