A little pick-me-up

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hey ya'll,

Found this quote today and hoped it would help you find some resolution as it did for me.

"Letting something go doesn't mean you must live with the absence of it. It means allowing it to unfold in its natural process without using force or control to make it into what you think it should be. It means let it be as it is. Let it unfold as it needs to. Don't mess with the process."

[marti644]

Hey ya'll,

Found this quote today and hoped it would help you find some resolution as it did for me.

"Letting something go doesn't mean you must live with the absence of it. It means allowing it to unfold in its natural process without using force or control to make it into what you think it should be. It means let it be as it is. Let it unfold as it needs to. Don't mess with the process."

[Swhitey]

Thanks marti644,

This is a great quote to ponder, it is a very mindful way of looking at things. I like to read these types of teachings.

[marti644]

Quote:

"You aren't hard to love just because you want to be treated right and expect a level of decency in a relationship."

[UnforgivenII]

I am going to print this last one out!

It is strange. Even if I know this in my mind, it just does not sink in my heart. I feel like I was wrong. Like I could have stayed.


But I really couldn't.

[marti644]

Hi Unforgiven,

I know the feeling. The contradiction is a total mind boggler. I think from what I have been learning it just takes time to process. And we have been repressing our real emotions and needs a long time, since childhood probably. I'm just letting it all out, and trying to stay healthy and productive in the meantime (not sure how successfully that is going).

Just ask yourself if you met another person with BPD and you knew they had it, would you date them or have a serious relationship with them?

If your answer is a definite no than you really didn't want to stay, your just still processing the entire series of events I think and its gonna take your heart time to catch up to your mind. This also means you are a real, genuine, caring person, and there is no flaw in that. That is something to be proud of !

[marti644]

"Feel what you need to feel. Release what you need to release. And once your done, work on creating a better life for yourself. The kind of life that won't ever put you in the position to feel that way again."

Emily Maroutian

[marti644]

Someone,
Somewhere,
Is looking for the exact same love that you have to offer.
The exact same love that the one who hurt you did not appreciate.
Don't lose hope.
And don't settle.
The most beautiful love stories are those that come after you realize what you deserve and you actually finally get it.
You deserve someone who loves your way of love.
Someone who loves you.

Najwa Zebian