I work with my ex and we just had a meeting

[Anez]

Hi all.

I work with my ex. We've been done since the discard over a year and a half ago. I was like most of us - lost a lot of weight from the stress after the discard, had the anxiety, dreaded every day coming into the office.

fast forward to present day. we haven't said a word to each other in prob 2 months and even that was just a hello in the hall. We work on different ends of the office so it makes it easier to avoid running into her but it happens from time to time.

she's working on a new project and her boss called a meeting the other day for today with me, him, her, and two other people. nobody knows about our background. i thought about the meeting throughout the weekend and up until today. i did think of skipping it but then i said F that, i'm going to that meeting, i'm being the fun, strong me, and not worry about any of the past. And that's what i did. I was myself. i smiled, i cracked jokes, i ran my part of the meeting to perfection. and i'm proud of myself for doing it that way and not running from it. I control my life and my career and nobody is going to get in the way of that.

I went through hell - like all of us - after the discard. working together only made that more difficult to get over it. but today I rocked it.

Am I a little triggered by the meeting and seeing her. yup, of course. and that's ok, too. Because I know her whole story and know who she really is.

If you're going through the discard and finding it tough... .just keep pushing and being good to yourself. it gets easier over time. i'm still not completely over it, but what i did today I wouldn't have been able to do a year ago.

keep fighting, guys!

[UnforgivenII]

You are an inspiration

[bunny4523]

Awesome post!  Thank you so much.  Very well said

Bunny

[Pretty Woman]

Good for you! When you give up they think they are "winning" and getting to you.

I understand the being triggered part. My ex's sister works with me and she was just in front of me with another co worker who has caused me some grief. When she saw me she says "Something smells really bad right now".

Pretty immature for a 48yo but that is what I am dealing with.   Just focus on your work and all will be well.

[Lucky Jim]

Nicely done, Anez.   

I like your attitude:

i did think of skipping it but then i said F that, i'm going to that meeting, i'm being the fun, strong me, and not worry about any of the past. And that's what i did.

Sounds like you are BTFI, which is short for Beyond the F it!

LuckyJim