Welcome Crunchie: I found my way here from a reference in the book "Stop Walking on Eggshells" as well. Several of us have. Sorry for the trauma your mom has caused in your life. I think it is good that you are in therapy and figuring things out while in your early 20's
(the earlier the better).
I'm hoping to feel some validation and "me too" moments here, be understood, gain some feeling of control and get better at dealing with this...
You will definitely find validation and "me too" moments .
Have you done any work on Boundaries or communication skills in therapy? Are there some current issues that you want to set some
BOUNDARIES with?
We look forward to hearing more of your story.