Hi Eggysquash,
It's great that you are finding answers and support in your life
My mother admitted to me that she had BPD. Though she accepted it, this is a hard diagnosis, and to a large extent, she used this (and other diagnoses) as a justification of who she was. Knowing what you have learned, even sans an official Dx, is more helpful to you in order to both understand the way in which she views the world, and also to learn communication tools which can help your relationship. Take a look at the suggested reading at the top of the board.
It's not always clear for mental health professionals to diagnose their patients with BPD. One of my mother's therapists gave her something like a subtle, back-handed, suggestive Dx, but my mom was smart enough to pick up on it.
Perhaps this article might help give some perspective. Tell me what you think.
1.05 | Telling Someone You Think They Have BPDOne of the core emotions of someone with BPD is shame. It's hard not to trigger this without becoming the target of their defense mechanisms (anger, projection, splitting, depression).
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