First steps of our Journey - Intro

[Sprout2]

My head has not stopped spinning from the past 2 weeks. Finally able to get in to a councilor who made me aware of this today.

My wife and I have been together for over 6 years. Both in our second marriage. Life has been magical for most of the time until the past 3 months. She was diagnosed with BPD about a year ago. She originally had depression issues and was really doing well with her psychiatrist and her medication regiment for a long time. I never did any research into it as things seemed fine and things between us were still amazing.

I changed jobs in November and things started to become different not long after (Jan). The past 2 weeks have been very challenging and I have gone through the emotional roller coaster of confusion about what's going on, frustration of why is she doing these things and even guilt of what have I done to cause this. The list could go on for pages. I'm sad, scared and feeling on edge. I feel like however I respond to a question or a look is going to be "Wrong" for her and will cause the calm seas to start raging.

I look forward to reading more good suggestions and skills that may help get through this journey. I'm trying to just get to the next day of peace but know their is a storm on the horizon just waiting.

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[heartandwhole]

Hi Sprout2,



I'm sorry to hear that things are not going well in your relationship. I can fully understand your feelings of edginess, sadness, and fear. In your shoes, I know I'd be feeling the same way. 

You've come to the right place for support. Members here have been in similar situations and understand what you are going through. The site also has tons of tools and resources to make things better. And things can get better. There is hope!

What has been triggering the raging these days?  Has your new job caused a big change in your available time with her, or your routines as a couple?

Conflict is hard to deal with, but there are things you can do to help reduce it. Here is an article (with video) that can help:

Ending Conflict

Keep posting and let us know how we can best support you. That's what we're here for.

heartandwhole