In love with a person with BPD

[Depression = 72% of members]

I'm not sure  where or how to begin this so please excuse if it is a bit disjointed. I started working at a new place last september and i meet a very interesting girl there. as i got to know her better we opened up to each other a lot about things that happened in our lives and shared some extremely intimate details about our lives. around january we got a new line manager who i was uncomfortable with he didn't want to be there and seemed to want to piss everyone off and said things behind people's back i.e calling my friend nutter others snakes and threatening to backhand people.

For some reason my friend liked. him actually she said somethings like he's a lad and a womaniser i like him. But our friendship continued to the point we arranged a date to go see a film. About this time i was having real problems with the line managers methods moving things around and causing problems i asked a few times for him to slow down as i wasn't taking the change well and started to feel trapped and suicidal. I tried to put this to him in an e-mail as he wasn’t listening. His response was to try and humiliate in a team meeting a tell me that i could kill myself for all he cared. On the same day i had £40 stolen from my wallet. I reported this to the minister of defence police. A few days later he basically accuses me of making it up and claimed i told the police one of my colleagues did as they told this to my colleague. I later found out the police had done no such thing. I then started to really go downhill. Took time of work with anxiety induced diarrhea and in low moment tried to to kill myself. Through all this i was talking to my friend and she was initially being very supportive but that support slowly seeme to disappear and she almost seemed to get amnesia about things i was telling her and it was almost like i was starting a conversation new every time. Then suddenly one day she blocked me facebook our main means of communication. Within 24-48 hours she had unblocked me and i followed her back couldn't refriend her as only friends of friends can. In that time period as well she added about 3000 “friends” on facebook. Which was actually kind of a complement if it takes 3000 people to replace me. I have twice tried to contact her but the first one she ignored or deleted the second she read but didn't respond to. Now i’m stuck wondering how i re establish contact.

[Goatan]

I'm not sure  where or how to begin this so please excuse if it is a bit disjointed. I started working at a new place last september and i meet a very interesting girl there. as i got to know her better we opened up to each other a lot about things that happened in our lives and shared some extremely intimate details about our lives. around january we got a new line manager who i was uncomfortable with he didn't want to be there and seemed to want to piss everyone off and said things behind people's back i.e calling my friend nutter others snakes and threatening to backhand people.

For some reason my friend liked. him actually she said somethings like he's a lad and a womaniser i like him. But our friendship continued to the point we arranged a date to go see a film. About this time i was having real problems with the line managers methods moving things around and causing problems i asked a few times for him to slow down as i wasn't taking the change well and started to feel trapped and suicidal. I tried to put this to him in an e-mail as he wasn’t listening. His response was to try and humiliate in a team meeting a tell me that i could kill myself for all he cared. On the same day i had £40 stolen from my wallet. I reported this to the minister of defence police. A few days later he basically accuses me of making it up and claimed i told the police one of my colleagues did as they told this to my colleague. I later found out the police had done no such thing. I then started to really go downhill. Took time of work with anxiety induced diarrhea and in low moment tried to to kill myself. Through all this i was talking to my friend and she was initially being very supportive but that support slowly seeme to disappear and she almost seemed to get amnesia about things i was telling her and it was almost like i was starting a conversation new every time. Then suddenly one day she blocked me facebook our main means of communication. Within 24-48 hours she had unblocked me and i followed her back couldn't refriend her as only friends of friends can. In that time period as well she added about 3000 “friends” on facebook. Which was actually kind of a complement if it takes 3000 people to replace me. I have twice tried to contact her but the first one she ignored or deleted the second she read but didn't respond to. Now i’m stuck wondering how i re establish contact.

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[JoeBPD81]

Getting your hopes up with a special friendship and then getting blocked, it's really painful. It happened to me once, after a couple of dates as friends... .It was a friend of hers that had made up a story about me, and it took her months to know the truth and then she apologized, but it had hurt me a lot and I didn't want to explore that friendship any more.
If she has BPD, and she heard something, they take suspicions as facts, and it will very really hard to have her to consider what she knows it's wrong.
You should be sure to keep in mind this is not you. It doesn't sound as you did anything wrong, and that manager sound awful.

[Goatan]

If she has BPD, and she heard something, they take suspicions as facts, and it will very really hard to have her to consider what she knows it's wrong.

What i have found interestign and a bit sad is she is willing to belive untrue things very easily while thr truth seems to take a long time for her to belive.