Should I break up

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Is it normal to feel like it's too much doubting your sanity and always feeling like he's dragging you down? Can there be a happy future with someone with BPD or am I just setting myself up for a divorce?

[Bluefishthings]

Is it normal to feel like it's too much doubting your sanity and always feeling like he's dragging you down? Can there be a happy future with someone with BPD or am I just setting myself up for a divorce?

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Bluefish, Welcome!  Whether to stay or part ways is a question only you can answer, I'm afraid, though we can help you to find the right path for YOU.  I emphasize You, because that's what it comes down to: your gut feelings, your needs, your values, etc.  What makes you think your SO had BPD?  Have you had a chance to read up on BPD?  If not, this site has lots of great information.

LuckyJim

[Mutt]

Hi Bluefishthings,   



I'd like to join Lucky Jim and welcome you to the family. I think that Lucky Jim put that we'll, I recall feeling like I was going crazy and every day felt like the future was bleak. I'd just like to add to what Lucky Jim said, a pwBPD will say mostly negative things about you and will project a lot their stuff too, so it doesn't paint a very realistic picture about yourself, it's distorted really. It helps to talk others that have gone through a similar experience and we can offer you a more balanced perspective about you and your situation then a pwBPD can. You're not alone.