This might make you feel better, but it is not the best way to reconcile.
1. When you go back, the only possibly of success is that something has to change significantly.
2. She will expect that of you and if you expect that of her - boom, zing, crash.
This is an opportunity to redesign your participation in your relationship. Look for what you think will work, define who you are in that, and then be it.
We're happy talk about that here.
As for boundaries... .this is a good read:
https://bpdfamily.com/content/setting-boundariesThanks Skip and Once Removed!
The night went really well, better than I expected. We both talked it all out very maturely. She cleared up my confusion since she had told me that when she kept telling me to move on and how she doesn't feel the same anymore... It was her way to push me away, and also test me, when really she wanted me and said was miserable without me. I was very understanding and told her I'm always going to be here for her, but she needs to talk to me and be open if she wants/needs space or a timeout, otherwise we'll be back to how we started and said she's definitely working on her communication skills and will help herself and us both out.
Skip, you mentioned redesigning my participation in my relationship - do you mean how I communicate with her? Or my position/role in the relationship? Would appreciate an example!
Big thanks,
S x