My ex-s replacement, who is btw a lot younger than my ex, is also impotent. Of course, my ex-s hasnt said this, she says that its working etc. But my replacements ex girlfriends have said this. It hasnt been some kind of jealous talk, but they have basically said that he cant get up just. Like he gets hard, but then gets soft quickly. He had always some explanations for that though. I think its brain issue or they have watched too much porn or whatever. My ex-s replacement is lot worse BPD/NPD than my ex is.
All I can say is on top of everything else , organic impotence? Like being married or all the other murky stuff in his life. Yeah, to be friends with him I have to be empathetic . I'm going to have to start setting some limits for myself.