I'm so glad you found us. You have found a place where people "get it". We've been part of the crazy ups, downs and accusations. Having your brain emotionally scrambled is exhausting.
There is hope! Please make sure your
browsing is private so you can learn a better way, without interference from your SO.
Right now the goal is to educate you and help you make decisions for you and your child.
My reaction to his rollercoasters is also very poor and i need help to manage my day to day
I am so pleased that you realize this. Why? Because
this is 100% in your control and changing this WILL change your entire relationship (we say r/s on the boards)... .regardless if your hubby wants to come along or not. (please don't tell him this... keep your knowledge private)
i am scared for my children when he turns on them.
What does this look like? I've got 8 kids. BPDish stuff didn't show up in our relationship until much later in life. I am doing much better at protecting my children and helping them thrive. It takes wise decisions AND consistent actions on those decisions.
It will take several posts before we get into specific recommendations.
Generally, I want to educate you first, then help you plan the first thing or two that you want to change and then be
consistent and firm with changes that YOU implement.
Let your hubby react to you, vice the other way around.
I'm positive we can help your r/s stablize and very likely we can help you improve it. We'll never know exactly where change will take us. Step 1 is to
turn things in a better direction.
How does this sound to you?
Last questions. Anyone in therapy or ever been in therapy? Have you been "told" you are "likely" suffering from anxiety and depression or were you diagnosed and treated for that? Any marriage counseling? Has that ever been discussed?
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