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I'm leaning towards direct but polite. ":)ear, you know how you've said it's important to you and how your libido just isn't what it used to be? I read about these herbal supplements that may help with that. I would like for you to try them to see if can help us with this area."
It could go either way. I have purchased supplements in the past to see if she would try them but she just said they would upset her stomach and never even opened the bottle.
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lenfan: What if you just said you'd read an article about their health benefits for women? Both have benefits for reproductive health. Of course it might be better to just be direct, but you know your wife and can make that decision for yourself. I hope it works out!
Hmc: As for the tummy upset thing, I can tell you that I have a VERY touchy tum and neither of these supplements has ever troubled it.
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OH, also--can't believe I forgot to mention this--Maca is a root, and you can actually cook with it. So maybe you could just whip up some of her favorite dishes and incorporate some Maca into them.
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Just make sure you know there will be no ill reactions to the meds she is currently prescribed... .
I'd say try find a way to approach the herbs without bringing up her libido which could trigger her "duck and cover" reflex. Maybe start researching herbs for both men and women so that it wouldn't be construed as an "attack" but part of a big picture of health for the whole family?
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Yes, thank you. I think presenting it as a part of overall health is both upfront and non-confrontational.
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