My story-and the rollercoaster

[Ambitious202]

First I would like to say that just recently did we uncover the issue with my mother. After a lifetime of odd situations, criticisms, and hurtfulness, I sought treatment to understand her, and my therapist mentioned BPD. I had no idea what this was, but as I was growing to understand and read situations that would describe someone with BPD, a light bulb went off in my head, and I thought finally, there's a reason behind what has happened with her and her odd reactions to things-she's just not weird, but theres something wrong.

I'm at the point now where, were in the midst of the silent treatment from her. We are preparing for a new arrival in our family, my sister is having a little girl in September, and not only has my mom not wanted any parts of planning her daughters baby shower, but after a week she hasnt replied to her invite to the shower. I'm sad for my sister, but also upset that my wonderful niece will now be subjected to her issues, and criticisms. I also cant wrap my head around how such an amazing event in our family, can be viewed so negatively by her.

I'm happy to have found this group, and look forward to hearing everyone's replies-thank you for reading and god bless.

[Kwamina]

Hi Ambitious202

Having a parent with BPD can  be quite difficult. I am glad you had the support of a therapist to help you with this. Having a solid support network can be invaluable, that's why I'm also glad to see you reaching out for support here  Are you currently perhaps still seeing a therapist to help you process all of this?

Congrats on your upcoming baby niece Sorry though that your mom is dealing with it in such an unpleasant way. You mention the silent treatment, has this been going on since your mother received the invite to the baby shower or already before that?

Is giving the silent treatment something your mother does often?

It can indeed be difficult to understand why people with BPD behave the way they do. At the heart of many of their issues often lie distorted thinking and perception, an unstable sense of self and an intense fear of abandonment. If your mother indeed has BPD, her behavior likely stems from her distorted thinking.

Take care and welcome to bpdfamily

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