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So if you were following my posts I was going for a position at a new company and found out my ex did too. Apparently they hired her first and then they offered me the job. I would have been her direct supervisor. I had to decline because of the conflict of interest. It was a job she knew I was waiting for for 2 years. I hate her so much.
First she takes my heart and drags it through the dirt, and then has to show up and get this job. She'll be making more than me in my supervisor position. I gave this woman my heart. And because I communicated that I felt we were losing a connection and could we work to repair that she left. Only to recycle me, and wake up one day and discard me again.
I'm just venting. I'm not in the mood to hear "What are you gonna do for yourself" or any of that. I appreciate this board and all the help people can give, but I'm too angry.
I can't stand that she treats people like garbage and is so self-centered and everything works out just fine for her. I wish her nothing but pain. I hope when she finds a new guy that he treats her like garbage, and runs her through the ringer of pain and emotional abuse like she did to me.
There's no karma. There's nothing. You walk all over people and you win. She's the smart one. It's always worked well for her.
I have never hated anyone before. Not even my first BPD ex. This woman I hate with my whole heart and soul. Because i spent 2 years avoiding relationships to avoid being hurt. And I trusted this time. Like an absolute moron. I should have left the first time she yelled at me because I was adament about seeing a movie that she didn't want to see. I hope she feels pain the rest of her waking life. It's what she deserves.
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I can sense a lot of anger, it's a shame when someone you loved can also cause so much pain.
Sadly you were recycled and tried your best with it all and it's turned out badly. The hate is there but I'm sure there was once a lot of love.
I always find 'hate' such a strong word thaf people use when they are angry, and class hatred as to what hitler showed, no one has hatred im sure and I don't think you hate her, dislike a lot, but not hate
Wish you every success in all you do
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Anger is OK.
Your anger is very targeted (which is healthy) and it's in bounds (hate is better than "want to kill" or "will get even".
It's disappointment on top of hurt.
It's a lot to bare.
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good for you get it out. i am all for the venting. she sounds like a complete arse. it stinks. go for it.
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