Protecting loved ones

[bus boy]

My lady friend were talking the other day and she said we have to protect our loved ones no matter what, I have no people's protecting loved ones as I've posted before but I had to speak up and say what if what your loved one is doing it wrong and goes against your moral fiber, my lady friend even if your loved one kills someone you protect them at all cost. I have struggled with the question of protecting bc my Xw always told me I don't know how to protect her, Xw would make a situation happen and I know what she would do is wrong and she would expect me to stand up for her. Xw was always saying horrible things about my family and my family knew Xw hated them, my family would not talk to Xw, Xw created all of this conflict and expected me to stand beside her, I could not do this. One day Xw pushed my sister to the limit, for years my sister ignored Xw, took the high road, this one day my sister had enough and when Xw verbally assaulted my sister, she told Xw to F off and grow up. My sister Calle me crying and went to the Mounties than Xw called demanding I do something about it, I said I would just to keep her happy but this is only one example of what I went through with being told I didn't know how to protect my Xw. Xw's idea of being there and protecting is being ready to drop what you are doing at any time and run to her when she calls.