Can you "catch" BPD?

[Depression = 72% of members]

I know, crazy question... .I'm back again!

But I feel that Ive become a lot like her because im peed off with the situation.
Im the one now that sends abuse and shouts and says god awful nasty things, and ghosting her... .

Ive been on these boards for over a year and a half now... .and tried to split, and we just cant... . 
Weve split so many times... .miss each other and come back... .  I wont go into our history, but Youll see what Ive been through if you can follow my posts... .and I havent helped... .

Shes been asking to go for couples counselling and Ive not wanted to because Ive just blamed her for everything, but after this last week, I really want to go now.

Shes not typical BPD in that she sleeps around... .but she does blank me for 4-5 days and sits in her room just getting drunk as she cant handle it... .She used to rage at me and punch me and god abs everything (all the standard traits)... .But lately shes changed... .and im not sure if its because Ive been mirroring her behaviour and giving her "a taste of her own medicine"... .I really dont do it on purpose... .ive just had enough... .and now do my own thing when she goes off grid for days... .  and she abs hates that, and says I never want to be with her... !

With her, its more of an obsession she has.  This last 7 day break up was because I shaved my beard and didnt "consult her"... .  A couple of other people said I was looking old with it, so I shaved it... .and had fun with my daughter whilst doing it... .(daddy daughter thing)... .And because she said that she liked it long... .she said Id rather listen to others than the woman that loves her... .So I reacted badly and that was that. 

Weve got our first appointment on 8th June, so I hope it goes well... .

Has anyone else had experience of picking those traits up fro soBPD?  And can someone with BPD be obsessed... .or is obsession something completely different... .and TBF... .I think I'm obsessed with her too... .

Many thanks

[confusedbloke]

I know, crazy question... .I'm back again!

But I feel that Ive become a lot like her because im peed off with the situation.
Im the one now that sends abuse and shouts and says god awful nasty things, and ghosting her... .

Ive been on these boards for over a year and a half now... .and tried to split, and we just cant... . 
Weve split so many times... .miss each other and come back... .  I wont go into our history, but Youll see what Ive been through if you can follow my posts... .and I havent helped... .

Shes been asking to go for couples counselling and Ive not wanted to because Ive just blamed her for everything, but after this last week, I really want to go now.

Shes not typical BPD in that she sleeps around... .but she does blank me for 4-5 days and sits in her room just getting drunk as she cant handle it... .She used to rage at me and punch me and god abs everything (all the standard traits)... .But lately shes changed... .and im not sure if its because Ive been mirroring her behaviour and giving her "a taste of her own medicine"... .I really dont do it on purpose... .ive just had enough... .and now do my own thing when she goes off grid for days... .  and she abs hates that, and says I never want to be with her... !

With her, its more of an obsession she has.  This last 7 day break up was because I shaved my beard and didnt "consult her"... .  A couple of other people said I was looking old with it, so I shaved it... .and had fun with my daughter whilst doing it... .(daddy daughter thing)... .And because she said that she liked it long... .she said Id rather listen to others than the woman that loves her... .So I reacted badly and that was that. 

Weve got our first appointment on 8th June, so I hope it goes well... .

Has anyone else had experience of picking those traits up fro soBPD?  And can someone with BPD be obsessed... .or is obsession something completely different... .and TBF... .I think I'm obsessed with her too... .

Many thanks

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