Why did she actually leave? Does she ever long for me?

[inter]

My BPD ex was influenced by friends to leave me for another guy they thought would be perfect for her. She cheated, broke up with me out of no where, and replaced me the day after with him. Not only did I know him but she knew I disliked him (not a friend). Even though I was her backbone and she couldn't live without me, she showed no remorse or regret what so ever about her decision. She had just come out of a broken marriage and was depressed most of the time while with me. The relationship was rocky after a year but we meant everything to each other. I took the role of a caretaker and took all the abuse and blame for her sadness.

This other man is richer, taller and notoriously well endowed. In addition i wouldn't be surprised if he suffered from mental or emotional disorders.

1) Did she leave me FOR him? was she actually swept off her feet by him? Did she feel he would make her happier than me? That he was better? Or did she just make a reckless decision to find change hoping it would make her happy and just doesn't not have the ability to own up to it?

2) Are they happy or is she the same abusive draining person with him?

3) Even though she is probably consumed by him, does she think of me? does she miss me? Is she able to feel the pain in the loss?

4) even though I am painted black, does she long for me when she is lonely or she has reminders triggers?

[roberto516]

1. She left because you weren't worth it to her. Remember, they don't sign up to be in relationships. They sign up fr the high. She found a new high.

2. Eventually she will do the same thing. Unless he's abusive or controlling than she will probably hang around longer.

3.she probably doesn't miss you. Because he's providing her with what she needs. If she ever missed you it would only be when they are fighting or something. But doubtful as time goes on.

4.again, she'd only miss you if the new guy disappointed her. That's the only time. But as time goes in its doubtful.

Sorry for sounding so jaded. But it's the truth. They are emotional vampires. My ex has been done with me minus a recycle for 6 months. She hasn't replaced me but she has run from the difficulty and scary feelings. She's getting her attention elsewhere now. Or she just likes to feel in control of her life again. Either way people with this disorder aren't healthy.