Recovery is a process, not an event. Good that you're not planning to jump into a rebound relationship. I recall that in the months (and a few years too) after my separation and divorce that too often my conversations veered into ex bashing, not that it wasn't true, it's that those aren't topics to drift to (circle the drain) when meeting someone.
ForeverDad:
I do understand that tendency to bash. I've avoided it. On Facebook, I never discussed my divorce or my ex's behavior. When the divorce papers were signed and I had my house back, I simply posted that I was sitting in at my dining room table enjoying a cup of tea. In my dining room. In my house. People who know me understood what that meant, and there were more than 100 positive reactions to that post. That's the extent of it.
I'm 57. I have no desire to enter into a relationship, and I think it may be years before I could ever trust a woman intimately as I did her. If and when I'm ready, I will know. But after 4 years of being completely controlled in almost every possible way, I am simply enjoying the freedom to do whatever I want when I want, or nothing at all, if that is what I want to do.
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom throughout this ordeal.
