He's really never stopped contact me, even though I'm married with two children.

[EB683]

So mine is quite crazy but it makes sense when you think about BPD males. Met my exBPD when he was 22. I was 20, studying abroad in another country.  As is typical with romances with these individuals, it was intense. I did make him work hard though as it took him three months before I would agree to go
On a night out with him. Long story short, moved back to the country for two years and went through all of this before getting on a plane and leaving. He's really never stopped contact me, even though I'm married with two children. He recently saw me again after seven years (a strange event for both of us) and I think he is realizing the kids are real and so now he has a new gf. He's had many over the years, as I've been married for a while now and also limited in how I talk to him. I hope he sticks with treatment as he is a good human, but he needs help and structure. I've known him for over 13 years.

[Harley Quinn]

Hi EB683,

Welcome to the site!

Your story is interesting.  13 years is a long time.  How long were you in a romantic r/s for and when did it end?

You'll find the boards really useful I'm sure as there are many members who will relate to your experiences in your r/s.  Feel free to share as much as you like when you're ready to tell us more.  What brought you to the site now?  Is it because you saw one another?  I'm guessing that may have been quite an experience if you've previously kept in contact from a distance?  How did you feel?

Keep reading and posting.  There's lots of great info here in the articles and workshops that can shed light on any long standing questions you may have.  I'll look forward to reading further posts from you.

Love and light x