Hi folks

[Technique]

I first registered with this site back in late 2014. I was truly heartbroken. I could barely speak her name I was so emotionally busted up.

I was single until February this year. Even then, I was still hung up on my ex. We share the same friends, and my stomach would turn simply at the sight of her 'liking' a Facebook post.

In late February a very old friend came to visit me. I have known her since the late 1980s. I had never looked upon her as anything other than a friend, and to be perfectly frank, I didn't fancy her!

Fast forward almost six months, and we are crazy, mad in love. She is the most incredible human being.

Reflecting on my previous relationship it's clear that the lessons I learned from it are what make this one work so incredibly. For so long I regretted even meeting my BPD ex. Now, I'm grateful I did. Indeed, had I not known those lessons this one would not be rolling along so magically.

Ultimately THIS is the relationship I have always wanted, I simply needed to do the groundwork to deserve it.

My message to all of you suffering right now is have faith! You WILL find the person who deserves you. Just be patient.

In the mean time, work on yourself, learn to appreciate your qualities, and sooner or later, Kismet WILL deliver. ❤️

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Technique, That's great to hear!  Agree.  Going through the BPD wringer forced me to confront my own issues, which has led to a much happier and healthier r/s with my current GF.  I know myself better now.  All that suffering proved to be a catalyst for new growth.  Sometimes the hard lessons are the ones from which we learn the most!

LuckyJim

[Notsurewhattothinkofthis]

This is great to hear. I am 22 months out. I have forgotten about my ex but I still wonder about her sometimes. I am not fully healed but I think the finish line is getting closer. I have not dated at all this whole time. I just don't feel 100% cured. But hopefully I will find someone that will treat me much better soon.

Cheers

[hopealways]

I am 24 months out, have been on several dates but yet to make a deep connection with someone who really moves me.  It's great hearing these stories.  I do have hope but sure miss those days when I actually felt passion.

[Harley Quinn]

Hi Technique,

It's so great to hear that things are going really well for you in your new r/s!  Thanks for sharing your experience with us.  It is truly encouraging to hear that this is possible to achieve. 

Reflecting on my previous relationship it's clear that the lessons I learned from it are what make this one work so incredibly. For so long I regretted even meeting my BPD ex. Now, I'm grateful I did. Indeed, had I not known those lessons this one would not be rolling along so magically.

You sound like you have really put a lot of thought into the positive things that have come out of your experience in a BPD r/s.  I'm really pleased that what you have learned is now benefitting you in your life post the r/s, now that you have moved on and from the sounds of it, made peace with the past.  Would I be right in thinking you have forgiven your ex through feeling gratitude for having been through the journey that you have?

I hope that your new r/s goes from strength to strength and that it brings you lasting happiness.

Love and light x