Welcome, this is a great place to post... it got me thru some of my worst days.
I'm sorry you are here though as I would not wish this on anyone.
Is your partner in therapy or was he in therapy after his divorce ? If not he has a lot of stuff that he really needs to work through and adding BPD to the mix that won't be an easy task.
I'm sorry I don't have much input as I'm fairly new as well... just four months out.
Thank you. I'm sorry you're dealing with this as well.
He was in therapy for alcoholism years ago. He still drinks at night.
He isn't in therapy now.
I've been doing things to work on myself, but I still miss him tremendously.