Good book or resources for teens

[Breakingfree9]

It seems most books on BPD are for adults.

Is there a book/resource that gives coping skills for a teenage girl with a BPD mother? I'm trying my best to give my daughter the skills she needs to do with her BPD mother. But, I'm 51 and have learned the coping skills over the last 10 years since I recognized her mom's BPD. What has worked for me may not work for a teen.

[Panda39]

Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem, by Roth & Friedman

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Mason & Kreger

Understanding the Borderline Mother, by Christine Lawson

These are written for adults but you might preview them first and see if you feel they are appropriate for your daughter.  How old is your daughter, how mature, and how aware is she of her mother’s issues are all things to consider.  Is your daughter in therapy at all?  That is also a good place for her to learn coping tools as well as from you.

Below is a link to more information on co-parenting with someone with BPD just in case you haven’t seen it yet… https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=182254.0

Panda39

[Thunderstruck]

I'm mostly commenting to follow. When my SD12 was younger we gave her "An Umbrella For Alex" which really did resonate with her. Her mom (uBPDbm) hasn't been diagnosed so I don't want to give her books like Panda39 mentioned above because it isn't our place to diagnose or label her. We mostly just talk to her a lot about her mom's behavior and her mom's personality which leads to her having difficulty controlling her emotions, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and impulsive with spending, etc.

[bunny4523]

I'm mostly commenting to follow. When my SD12 was younger we gave her "An Umbrella For Alex" which really did resonate with her. Her mom (uBPDbm) hasn't been diagnosed so I don't want to give her books like Panda39 mentioned above because it isn't our place to diagnose or label her. We mostly just talk to her a lot about her mom's behavior and her mom's personality which leads to her having difficulty controlling her emotions, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and impulsive with spending, etc.

Good to know because that is the same approach we are taking since we don't actually know about a diagnosis... .
Thank you for the reassurance