It's taken me a while, but I've arrived at a point where I've gained understanding of this affliction. It was hard to discern it, given my spouse's very functional alcoholism, but I've always suspected BPD or even NPD. I've been getting therapy for the last 7 months; this alone has been tremendous in dealing with my depression over his cruel behavior, and also in opening up my understanding... .to not take it personally... .to gain the courage to separate what was going on from myself... .to decide what next steps to take and to protect myself. Thank you for this site; I've delved into it and have pretty much think it's BPD. He's just stopped the drinking, and now the hard questions are surfacing, but I have hope now and the depression has lifted... .and I feel good about myself again. At least there's now an option for growth, change?
