Committed Husband

[Fj]

Hi, I have been married for 16 years to a women with a BPD.  It's been tough but I am fully committed and want to be married to her the rest of my life.   We have two teenage girls.   Its been tough on them as well.  I have learned about BPD by reading "Its all your fault" by Bill Eddy.  My current challenge is conflict resolution.   My wife wants me to fix her upset feelings now!  I do not jump to conclusions and try to maintain boundaries.  I often stay quite or reassure her I am committed to her.  After her anger I often give her space.  I am able to break away with my job and my faith sustains my emotions.

Any advice?

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[gbone]

Hi Fj,

Sorry I don't have any advice for you, I'm new to this realm myself. But something that might help others help you... .when you say the current challenge, what do you mean? Has her recovery been progressively getting better? And you've been moving past 'the boxes' to the road to recovery? Has your family gotten external help? DBT or something else?

Thank you

[Fj]

Counseling has not worked.  I can only adjust my own behavior to improve the situation m