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« on: August 11, 2017, 05:42:13 PM »

Married 13 years. she has BPD.  PTSD.

I finally cannot take the lies any more.  I have no idea when she is telling the truth of lying to me. 

I am lonely and depressed.   More so for my sons fate.  She will get him in the divorce.

But I need to leave.  Leaving is just so hard.
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« Reply #1 on: August 11, 2017, 10:21:26 PM »

I am new, i found out last summer that my new husband has BPD, I found paper work from the navy DR. I feel like I am going crazy! He lies s0000 much  .  I mean about ever thing , I can not even believe it. I actually have his phone and car tracked. I think he is having some sort of fling. he is not at work or the AA meetings . He calls some one at the hospital off the hook, but I can not figure out the who, what, or where. I live in a world with some one that will deny all evidence, so I see the bills and know he is lying about going to work, and I still doubt myself. Is lying, cheating, common with this illness?
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« Reply #2 on: August 12, 2017, 05:55:16 AM »

They need to protect their image of themselves as being perfect,  so they lie.

But lying becomes a way for some people.  even simple question elicit a lie rather than truth.

It is very difficult to deal with.


My wife told me that my father never loved me.  She never even met him.  I carried that around for days until I finally realized she is BS'ing me.

Not sure what triggered that attack on my self. She always wants to be in control on me.    

I walked around in a daze for three days and would not talk to her.  I was also very angry.  Now the silent treatment was bad for her.  But I just cannot bring myself to explain it to her and fix the silence between us.
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« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2017, 01:18:39 PM »

Married 13 years. she has BPD.  PTSD.

I finally cannot take the lies any more.  I have no idea when she is telling the truth of lying to me. 

I am lonely and depressed.   More so for my sons fate.  She will get him in the divorce.

But I need to leave.  Leaving is just so hard.


That's a tough situation.
I need to leave too but cant - dont think it's fair of me to clear out and leave my S14 to deal with all her issues and not have a non around to balance things out.
Yes I agree - leaving is so hard.
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