Positivity

[5xFive]

UBPDh recently dysregulated. It was worse than some times, better than others. I didn't do well with validation, but when the storm passed and the anger was still present, I remained positive. I rubbed, talked like all was well, stayed positive. Instead of waking up unsure of how today would be, he woke ME up in the middle of the night to kiss me and tell me that he loves me. YAY.
I have a friend who comes to town once every 3 months or so, for work at my office. The last time we went out for drinks (which was the last time I had a girls night) was January 2016. I couldn't go out the last few times due to pregnancy and a new baby. She's here and we made a plan to go out tonight. I was a little worried about h. He gets very jealous and has trouble with trust (as many do). So I made serious plans. The kids are going to my moms, I planned dinner for h so he's not hungry, told him where I'm going, how long I THINK I'll be, everything I can think of. I've done this before and had limited success, often being late to leave or unable to go all together from his dysregulation and/or my lack of boundaries.
But I'm leaving the house! And he's in a happy place! I'm so incredibly excited and I wanted to share a little positivity with you, my friends. 

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[Radcliff]

Monucka,

Fantastic!  That is so great to hear.  Congrats on making it happen, and how sweet to get the validation I hope you are having a wonderful evening with your friend.  Thanks for sharing!