I get this long text that she got married

[Depression = 72% of members]

Made too many posts here about how the last 2 years of my relationship was with what I THOUGHT was my girlfriend of two years... going over to the house and meeting all her family and them loving me... but this month went for the worse... I saw the true her... her last messages to me was "do you love me?" Now from the past I know that she's getting ready to do something regardless if I approve or not. And so facetime talk and the norm... then next morning while at work I get this long text that she got married... I'm just shocked... .like where did this come from?

And the fact that ALL her family members said NOTHING to me at all what was impending...

[alwaysloving]

Made too many posts here about how the last 2 years of my relationship was with what I THOUGHT was my girlfriend of two years... going over to the house and meeting all her family and them loving me... but this month went for the worse... I saw the true her... her last messages to me was "do you love me?" Now from the past I know that she's getting ready to do something regardless if I approve or not. And so facetime talk and the norm... then next morning while at work I get this long text that she got married... I'm just shocked... .like where did this come from?

And the fact that ALL her family members said NOTHING to me at all what was impending...

[Lucky Jim]

Hey always loving, Sorry to hear.  That must have been a shock for you to receive that text message.  Those w/BPD, I'm afraid, have a tendency to act on their impulses and it sounds like that's what she did here.  Who knows what her family members think?  They may be just as baffled as you.  In the long run, I predict that you will be grateful that this r/s didn't work out, yet I know it doesn't feel like that right now.

LuckyJim

[alwaysloving]

Hey always loving, Sorry to hear.  That must have been a shock for you to receive that text message.  Those w/BPD, I'm afraid, have a tendency to act on their impulses and it sounds like that's what she did here.  Who knows what her family members think?  They may be just as baffled as you.  In the long run, I predict that you will be grateful that this r/s didn't work out, yet I know it doesn't feel like that right now.

LuckyJim

Yeah it's a hard one but I really could not get myself worked up over it because what I look back over in the last 5 months (it's by far the worst out of the 2 years) I can't really feel sad at all... only for the part for me giving her so many chances and she blew each one of them and trying to turn them around on me.

I mean she nailed every single one of the BPD signs... mirroring and acting out and all that