How long does it take before the abusive patterns show up again once you begin

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dating again?

I was here before about my own ex, who to this day, i am still not sure if she had BPD. I had almost entirely recovered from that, if not entirely.

Well, i began talking to this girl romantically who ive known a few years now. We've always had a thing for each other but didn't allow it to progress because we weren't over other people.

She began dating this girl late last year, and I found out they recently broke up. Well, from everything she told me about this girl, she is either BPD or really abusive. The girl had no family she kept in contact and no friends. So she is basically isolated. My friend said they started off great, and months in, surprise surprise, her attitude began to change.
She would accuse my friend of being a "hoe", of sleeping with people even though she was at home, calling her stupid, a b**** , saying she doesn't deserve her, she threw her phone once and even hit her in the head.

Well, they broke up and the ex kept trying to beg for her back. She called literally over 100 times from blocked numbers, on different occasions. Her voicemails would range from i love you, lets work this out then the next voicemail would be cussing her out , saying how stupid she was, etc.

The girl would accuse her of doing things, then go out clubbing or what not and post photos of it on social media.

Well... I cant believe im saying this but my friend/girl i liked, actually went back to this chick. It upset me so much that i unfriended my friend everywhere. As a result, she blocked me i guess because she knew she "played me" so to speak.

It's been a few days now... .I've only viewed the crazy girlfriends FB page a couple times but its nothing but lovey dovey posts about my friend, and my friend responding to them.
My friend is super rational so i cant believe she went back to this girl, and how happy they seem.

How long before this abusive behavior shows up again? because i believe it will and i believe the girl is either abusive or BPD.

also something to note. the chick has kids and my friend told me she never once saw her tell the kids she loved them, or comforted them in any way. Huge red flag to me.

[Indifferent28]

dating again?

I was here before about my own ex, who to this day, i am still not sure if she had BPD. I had almost entirely recovered from that, if not entirely.

Well, i began talking to this girl romantically who ive known a few years now. We've always had a thing for each other but didn't allow it to progress because we weren't over other people.

She began dating this girl late last year, and I found out they recently broke up. Well, from everything she told me about this girl, she is either BPD or really abusive. The girl had no family she kept in contact and no friends. So she is basically isolated. My friend said they started off great, and months in, surprise surprise, her attitude began to change.
She would accuse my friend of being a "hoe", of sleeping with people even though she was at home, calling her stupid, a b**** , saying she doesn't deserve her, she threw her phone once and even hit her in the head.

Well, they broke up and the ex kept trying to beg for her back. She called literally over 100 times from blocked numbers, on different occasions. Her voicemails would range from i love you, lets work this out then the next voicemail would be cussing her out , saying how stupid she was, etc.

The girl would accuse her of doing things, then go out clubbing or what not and post photos of it on social media.

Well... I cant believe im saying this but my friend/girl i liked, actually went back to this chick. It upset me so much that i unfriended my friend everywhere. As a result, she blocked me i guess because she knew she "played me" so to speak.

It's been a few days now... .I've only viewed the crazy girlfriends FB page a couple times but its nothing but lovey dovey posts about my friend, and my friend responding to them.
My friend is super rational so i cant believe she went back to this girl, and how happy they seem.

How long before this abusive behavior shows up again? because i believe it will and i believe the girl is either abusive or BPD.

also something to note. the chick has kids and my friend told me she never once saw her tell the kids she loved them, or comforted them in any way. Huge red flag to me.

[Indifferent28]

Also, the girl has lied to my friend on numerous occasions the first time they dated... .Over tiny things and always tried to justify it when caught in a lie. She also never had a serious relationship it seems, or anyone that wanted to stay with her.