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Mauro
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« on: November 29, 2017, 02:31:21 PM »

I recently read 'Stop Walking on Eggshells' and my son fits the profile, do I share anything with him?  He is 27 years old, and he was diagnosed with depression, but his behavior has really escalated so I don't know if I share this or stick to working on my bounders. Please provide some direction. 

I am so interested in classes, not sure where to turn.

Thank you.
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« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2017, 11:53:37 AM »

Hello Mauro... .nice you have found us!

The first book I ever read on BPD was "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" and I do remember crying as I read it because I was sure it was written about my child.  "Stop Walking on Eggshells" was another one I couldn't put down.  Finally I was getting validation that there really was something wrong.  I was not a "bad parent"... .I had a child with a problem.

While over all these years our daughter has gone to one counsellor after another, she has never been to a professional who could give the diagnosis as her having BPD... .but the tick marks are there. 

You write that your son has been diagnosed as having depression.  How long ago did he get that diagnosis?  Is he being treated for it?  Do you have family support?

While I don't know what kind of a relationship you have with your son, as far as you sharing your thoughts with him about the possibility of BPD, I think you should tread lightly.  It would be good if you, yourself, could speak with a professional who is well-versed with BPD.  In the meantime, the information is here on how to help you handle communication with your son.  Baby steps, baby steps... .all the time moving forward.

Again, welcome!  Hope we hear more from you as you journey along this what-can-be a difficult path.  There are no immediate answers but there is comfort to be gained in knowing others are experiencing similar problems.  While you can gain and learn from what others post here... .what you have to say can be very important for others to hear.

Huat

 
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« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2017, 03:39:30 PM »

Hi there Mauro  

I'd like to join Huat welcoming you to bpdfamily community.  Smiling (click to insert in post) the first book I read was
Loving Someone with Borderline Line Disorder my situation differed to you and Huat at this point my then 26DD had received a diagnosis, I was on catch up.

Mauro GOOD question, so often asked here! It is not recommended a parent share they think their child 'fits a profile' so lets help you understand why.

Starting from the beginning is Lesson: What a parent can do - this is always available at the top of the parents board, I've linked to help you access. Reading chronologically from the top of the lessons, come Lesson 6 is advice on getting someone into therapy. Let us know what you think, does it make sense to you? Take your time, what I and many parents here learn this is not a race, it's a journey and it's ok for us to take the time and learn what this means for us and our loved ones before we act.

Many parents consult with therapists who specialise in BPD for guidance and support moving forwards with their loved one, one such parent is 1hope, check her posts out they are very enlightening, of course they relate to her unique situation as all of ours are, though provides us the depth and clarity of advice she's receiving and why and it provides us comfort we are doing our very best.

Welcome on board, you are not alone  

Keep posting, it really does help.

WDx

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