Hi Rameses,
How did things play out between yourself and the other guy when you introduced yourself? It was a bold move and I can't say I blame you. Sounds like she was upset because she viewed your doing that as spoiling her chances with this potential new partner. I can imagine it was very painful to see her with someone else so soon. At the same time, I'd suggest that you remember the reasons why you left and that these things are highly unlikely to improve, especially in light of the fact that she is seeking out solace elsewhere very quickly.
I know (we all do on this board) just how difficult it is to detach from a BPD r/s and it can feel like going cold turkey off a very potent love drug. The idealisation stage is a real hook. If you are certain that this is it this time, what strategy do you have in place to help yourself to prevent the past cycle from continuing, leading to further heartache and pain long term?
Try to be patient with yourself. 10 days is a very short time in a breakup like this. The loaded bond is extremely hard to break free from. I'd suggest you try to minimise if not prevent altogether any further instances where your paths could cross for a while now in order to work through your pain and begin to detach. Time and space away from the drama can give you new perspective on things. Are you currently no contact?
Here's a link to the article that made the most impact on me in the early stages. It allowed me to see my own reasons for hanging on and begin to address these in myself. We cannot change what others think, feel or do. We can only control ourselves and the impact we have on ourselves by remaining stuck in the same thought processes. I hope this is as helpful to you as it was to me.
https://bpdfamily.com/content/surviving-break-when-your-partner-has-borderline-personalityLove and light x
