Theory as to why BPDs stay gone?

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hi,
my theory... .something I noticed about my ex-bf is how he is incapable of handling any kind of negative emotions. Fear, shame, guilt - they all get redirected towards anger. So I think that even if he sometimes realises how he has behaved, the last evening when we were together and he threw stuff around in my apartment in a total rage, he can not allow any kind of shame of guilt to enter his mind. He'll just focus on how angry he is with me.
I don't expect to hear from him again, no matter how intimate and loving and wonderful the 15 months together have been. It breaks my heart.
Summer

[Summer67]

Hi,
my theory... .something I noticed about my ex-bf is how he is incapable of handling any kind of negative emotions. Fear, shame, guilt - they all get redirected towards anger. So I think that even if he sometimes realises how he has behaved, the last evening when we were together and he threw stuff around in my apartment in a total rage, he can not allow any kind of shame of guilt to enter his mind. He'll just focus on how angry he is with me.
I don't expect to hear from him again, no matter how intimate and loving and wonderful the 15 months together have been. It breaks my heart.
Summer

[Bo123]

Was he like that the whole relationship?  If so, did he ever take an anger management class or you two try therapy?  For having 15 wonderful months I wonder what changed, were they wonderful for him and why did he leave.  I'm sure there is a lot more than you posted but this sounds more like a almost regular break-up than BPD.  The total rage and anger is no good for you.  Did you ever talk about it with him?