the social investigator DID leave a path for her to get what she wants. It would be difficult, time consuming and incredibly stressful financially for her, but it is possible. If I found myself in the unfortunate spot of representing her, I would recommend that she agree to those terms in mediation, find a way to make it all happen, and come back when it's done. That's the only way for her to show the court that she actually cares.
From what you described earlier, she seems more fragile, more susceptible to serious dysregulations than some of the ex spouses mentioned here. Involuntary commitment to a psych wing suggests how hard it is for her to cope with reality, even without the adversity of court.
She would have to stay regulated amidst a lot of legal and financial strain, and sustain that regulation.
I noticed with my ex that when things started to close in around him, and the stakes got higher, his behavior only worsened and he just dug in his heels and found back harder, making it nearly impossible for him in the eyes of the court. It was tragic to watch and the front-row seat was very expensive.
Her main concerns were the innappropriate and false information regarding our litigation that my ex was sharing with our son
Did the SI have any recommendations for how to help your son cope with this stuff?
What happens next with the parenting coordinator? Do you get to pick the PC?
If your case goes the way mine did, she may fight past the point where anything good will come of it. But then there is the tragic sadness of helping your child repair and recover from something that is senseless, not to mention trying to become whole again financially.
How to protect a kid from an abusive parent is different than helping them heal from it.
I still see the struggle in my kid, 8 years later